I realize I don’t post many personal things on my blog, and today I felt like doing that. Today my mood stems from a conversation I had with my mother, and I thought it may help other people out there. So I am going to start with a blatant word of advice…
Don’t Let Other People Rule Your Life
Although you may look at me and say
I’m sure there are many instances where you do just that and don’t even realize it! For instance, ladies, do you feel beautiful when you walk out of the house with no makeup on? This is for the ladies that wear makeup every day and are rarely seen without their faces done. Your answer to my question might be…
“Hell No! I don’t want to run into anyone I know looking like that.”
And that is my point exactly. We’re all caught up on Vanity although in reality, it means nothing. Although there are some women who think it’s fun to put makeup on, most of us just think it’s a drag but we do it because we don’t want to hear anyone say…
“Are you feeling okay today? You look tired.”
When in your head you’re thinking…
“Nope! I just don’t have any makeup on.”
Personally, I never thought I looked bad makeup-less until someone said that very statement to me. And that means we are letting others dictate whether we put on makeup, or not.
Not only that, but how many times have you been out in public, maybe drunk, maybe not…and said something loud or crazy and a friend looks at you and says…
“Shhh, be quiet! Everyone’s staring at us.”
This happens to me all the time, and in reality…who gives a fuck. If you’re not in a library or a movie theatre, be loud, be you, and be proud about it. If you’re happy that you just got an A on your final exam and wanna scream and shout….DO IT.
Don’t let irrelevant judgements from people you don’t know and probably will never see again classify your happiness as annoying or obnoxious. Sure, consideration is one thing, don’t go screaming around for 10 minutes straight and then get mad when someone tells you to shut up, but if you have the occasional excited outburst…
And don’t anyone tell you that you shouldn’t.
Don’t let your friends or family members tell you that you shouldn’t make a certain decision because at the end of the day the only person that has to live with it, is YOU. Reason with me here, I don’t want you going out and robbing a bank or killing someone, because sure, that does affect other people. But if you’re contemplating whether or not you want to take that promotion or go back to school. It’s up to you! Stop relying on what other people tell you you should be doing, and do what you think is best because when all else fails, you always have yourself to rely on.
We, as a society, are too hung up on what we should be based on society’s standards. The real question is:
Are you that person who’s constantly looking over their shoulder wondering if that couple next to you heard you say ‘vagina’, or do you want to talk about what you’re comfortable talking about when you want to? Setting healthy boundaries for yourself can make or break you!
Do you want freedom, or do you want to imprison yourself due to the standards of everyone else? Personally, I choose the latter. I am me, and if you don’t like it…fine! That’s your prerogative. Just as it’s my prerogative to go outside in volleyball shorts and a sports bra to take out the trash. Don’t stare at me like I just flashed my butt at your pre-teen son. We’ve all got body parts, and I’m not ashamed of mine.
We all have bodies.
We all have fantasies.
“Inappropriate”(By whose standards?) thoughts.
And we are all alive, and we are all human. Should we really limit the one life we’ve been given because we’re scared of what other people think? I don’t think so.
I’m gonna do me and you should most definitely DO YOU.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.