Brooke Marie

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Fear Defeats Success

Fear is the greatest defeater of success. All of those motivational speakers and self-help books tell you that. But you won’t really believe it unless you experience it for yourself, and chances are you already have many, many times over. Probably without even realizing it.

When you know in your heart what you want to do with your life but fail to do so because you aren’t comfortable taking a leap of faith…that is fear hindering your success.

When you decide to stay at that job that doesn’t bring you happiness and doesn’t take you to the level you’re searching for…that is fear obliterating all hope of success.

I’ve talked previously about not fearing rejection because when you fail to receive something nothing really happens at all. You don’t receive what you wanted to receive but nothing really changes, nothing really hurts except your ego. The ego is an aid in defeating success because it’s usually the one that gets caught up in fear and refuses to take the leap you know deep down is necessary for progress and growth…

Fortunately for me, I’ve recently decided to punch fear in the face and take a leap I never thought I’d be bold enough to take. I’m 100% self-employed. But honestly… I get scared pretty much every week. Every week I wake up with severe insomnia because I can’t figure out how I’m going to pay my rent next month.

Every night I remember that I have to hustle, and hustle hard, for a paycheck. I also have to keep reminding myself that although I do have to hustle…every penny I make is made from my own efforts. Nothing is handed to me, and it teaches me that the only one in charge of my future, the only one that can dictate my success is me!

Relying on a paycheck is easy. But how many of us out there that are making those paychecks are actually happy with what we’re doing? Working 9-5, maybe not, but working a job that isn’t really conducive to the lifestyle you want, that isn’t really what you’re passionate about. That is a huge disservice to your soul. Passion is what fuels you to take big leaps and take big risks to reach successes you believe are out there waiting for you to obtain.

Don’t let the ego that holds onto fear stop you from taking those steps. If you’re ambitious about something, the motivation will drive you. The lack of a safety net or a fallback will only propel you further into your dreams and into the life you want to live. Trust me, the lack of that safety net sometimes causes me to feel weak, insignificant and unsuccessful… but then I have to remind myself that bad moments don’t dictate who I am as a whole. Bad days are just speed bumps… it’s how you bounce back that really speaks on the kind of person you are…

So in those moments I have to remind myself to take a breath, calm myself, and continue working on the essential tasks that will take me to where I want to go.

You’re never going to feel ready. You’re never going to have that “Aha!” moment where you suddenly think it’s a “good” idea to quit a job with a steady paycheck to pursue something that is, in all honesty, uncertain. But the people that are successful are the ones that go for it anyway. They’re the ones that believe in the unknown with the same certainty they felt knowing they’d be getting their bi-weekly salary.

If you have a dream, carve out a plan and go for it. Get a little obsessed, get crazy over it! The crazier you are the more likely you are to succeed, because behind every bit of crazy is a lot of passion, and behind every passionate person is success waiting to be discovered.

Whatever it is you’re contemplating, GO FOR IT!

The only thing that can happen is that you fail. And failure is only one door closing and another door opening.



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  8. Brooke. Great article on fear and exactly what o am going through right now and needed to read/hear this. Always need to be reminded of this as my ego is usually feat based and it’s hard to shut that noise off. Keep up the great work. Stay strong.

    1. Hi Michael!

      I wrote this such a long time ago and never got around to posting it. This week was really hard for me. I had so many ups and downs and regrets and felt like I should just walk back behind a desk and take a 9-5. But you can’t make any decisions that are fear based.

      And I agree with you. The ego is a hard thing to break free of. Glad this granted you some sort of solace! Stay strong!



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