Racism in America still exists, and I am so sick of the people that correlate everything with race. Yes, I am a mixed chick; African American and Caucasian to be exact, and yes I am engaged to a Caucasian man…. SO what?
I am not the kind of person who believes black people are the only ones who encounter racism. I know that all races have to deal with racist comments. I am only commenting on racism against African Americans because I am African American, and can only speak from experience.
Here are some things that are racially insensitive, lack cultural relativism, and are probably annoying the shit out of your African American friends…
1. Someone says the word “Black”, so I must be offended.
Just because someone said the word black, when referring to, I don’t know, the color of his pants? Does not mean I should be offended by his statement. Don’t look at me worried because you think it offended me, or wait until I laugh so you can laugh about it as well.
“I didn’t like the black ones.”
Again, referring to his pants… does not offend me at all. If it was the other way around and he said “white ones”; either no one would think twice, or they would snark and say he has “jungle fever”.
2. You can call black people “My People”.
We have all seen that movie where the white guy goes:
“You and your people need to get out of here!”
Or something of the sort, and the African American actor goes
“What do you mean My People?”
So the fact that “civilized” human beings are still using this segregating, distasteful commentary when telling people stories is quite upsetting. You know how wrong that sounds, don’t you?
3. You make racial stereotypes and project them onto your friends.
Just because I am African American does not mean I should have bad grammar, or “sound black”. Just because you are white does not mean you are from a town that is built on inbreeding and moonshine either. So stop saying things like:
“If you close your eyes you don’t sound black at all!”
And then try to save yourself by saying something equally as offensive like:
“I mean you are just very eloquent and articulate!!”
Good grief people. These are the kinds of things you say when you are NOT in my presence. Don’t try and compliment me while greatly insulting those of my race. Why can’t you just tell me I am articulate? Why does it have to be that I am articulate, for a black woman?
4. I am only attractive in regards to other people of my Race.
I used to get this one a lot when I was in the dating world, and it was very troubling for me. There have been times where I have been talking to a guy (caucasian) and we were really hitting it off. Somehow we end up on the topic of being attractive to one another, and then he blurts out something like:
“Yeah, I think you are really really stunning….For a black girl.”
Then I get up, and walk away. I don’t think it’s fair for people to compare beauty based on someone else’s race. Beauty comes in different shapes, shades, and sizes; so if I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful.
I have even had people tell me that there is
“No way you can compare the beauty of a white woman to a black woman. If a beautiful black woman were white, she would be even more beautiful.”
And that, above, is something a breathing, speaking, human being once told me. Way to crush a girls’ spirit!
5. I must not be FULL black, due to certain features I have.
Due to the above mentioned stupidity, I have learned to be ashamed of certain features I possess, including my darker skin. When someone calls me “dark” I tend to get insulted. I know I shouldn’t but growing up I was taught that dark, is not beautiful. I always felt blessed that I had a head full of silky hair, and thanked god that my facial features were a mix of my two predominant races. Sometimes people will say things like…
“Hey Brooke, you’re not full black right? You can’t be with pretty hair like that.”
“Is that a weave? Your hair is SO nice for a black girl!”
These comments are SO insulting to me and to others of my race, and the more they are spewed the more they make us “black girls” feel ashamed of our beauty.
6. I want to twerk to every song.
Just because I am black does not mean I want to, or do I know how to, twerk. In case you aren’t remembering correctly, one of the main people in the media that sensationalized twerking is a little white girl from the south. Stop assuming I’m going to twerk for you because I am an African American female. Thanks
So in closing,
Stop saying hateful racist comments to your friends, and you beautiful black men and women out there need to remember one thing; all of these collagen injections, brazilian butt lifts, and tanning bed visits are signs that our type of beauty ‘aint so bad. If people have a problem with it, they are either too jealous or too ignorant to see what they’re doing, and that shouldn’t keep us from moving forward and upward.
I do understand that some people aren’t trying to be insulting, but maybe we all need to think a little bit before we speak to avoid unintentionally hurting feelings.
Every single race on this planet is truly beautiful in its’ own, distinct way. So don’t let anybody bring you down no matter what color, size, or shape you are. Beautiful is beautiful, baby.
Have any of you out there encountered racism that has stuck with you through the years? Let me know!